Several of my readers have expressed some anxiety when it comes to getting their first chance. Many think they are hopeless, as they have never done it before. By not having certain socio-emotional skills and languages on their "psychological resume", they feel like they have an obvious flaw, as if applying for a job were like asking someone out. Given their lack of experience, others worry that their first opportunity will be a complete failure because they wouldn’t know how to handle it. So let's talk about that first time....